Do men have frenemies?

No… seriously… Science needs to know…

I think there needs to be some serious research done on this…

 

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4 thoughts on “Do men have frenemies?

  1. Personally, from experience I find it that it is typically that straight men aren’t adept at being bitchy as they tend to have the mother issue of “don’t remove the love” which translates as a lack of conflict resolution skills from an amateur.undeveloped. lack of experience breed of connection style. Then, there are the anomalous males who simply turn an eyebrow up silently and dismiss themselves from the situation which is not passive-aggressive so much as it is dismissive in a manner to keep one’s pond clean so to speak.

    Regardless of gender, the “frenemies” seem to be closeted or full-out narcissists that don;t have the balls to be themselves or have not self-actualized their lack of empathy which presents in guised cruelty which is ultimately manipulative.

    I see it most to present in the codependent personality of the male that is either super-macho or queenly, and in the female as the magnetically cold and calculating. All in all these peoples’ personalities seem to be almost an absolute affect. Their affectation presents as immediate results without follow-through which from personal experience is often a component of people with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). They have a military strategy sense of defensible space from their violent upbringings such that they first discern the entries and exits when they enter a space.

    It can take a while to out one as they tend to, like most narcissists, be very manipulatively magnetic. What it takes is getting passed the object reversal where magnetic is really an adjective description and manipulatively is really the object.

    The narcissist is a very 7 of Swords personality, smoke and mirrors, and as one apt astrologer mentioned to me, a 12th House Moon can swallow things up… cloud one’s judgment if one is not aware enough to swim the right way from the depths.

    In short frenemies are pretty much the assholes of the soul trapped in their fear and lack of self-confidence though with an actionable guile. They are like a sea snake. They will entice people to their bird-with-a-broken-wing syndrome and to take little bites out of them gaining a false sense of trust… and then they will turn around and in full, true colors show you that they are the most venomous snake there is. Thing is, a bird flies and a snake goes deep. Though a winged snake is an alchemical symbol of wholeness where one flies as high as their roots go deep, frenemies play the contrapuntal part of the appearance versus reality in the irony of their manipulative, appearance versus reality personality.

    … as a thought for discussion.

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  2. Shortly put, I feel that frenemies are those active lurkers who while things are all fun and good they are. And, then when things turn sour, they turn it on others. I believe it was Lao Tzu in “The Art of War” that expressed to keep your friends close and you enemies loser, mabe Machiavelli, and I’m not hip on querying The Google Oracle right now. Since we are not in an overtly feudal society, anymore, I block/unfriend/report these kinds of people as it is not my job to grow them up.

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  3. Thanks Mr H… there is certainly a lot in there to consider… And as it happens, a copy of ‘The Art of War’ has today arrived in my house… so I will be reading that. The phrase that I really dig is…

    Then, there are the anomalous males who simply turn an eyebrow up silently and dismiss themselves from the situation which is not passive-aggressive so much as it is dismissive in a manner to keep one’s pond clean so to speak.

    Which seems to me, to be a most excellent response as an effective non-response to stuff and non-sense.. so I pulled a card to see who I should sit with and out popped ‘The Emperor’…
    So… I will be sitting down for a chat with him, a cuppa, and a notebook and see what falls out of my pen…
    😉

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