10 Tarot tips on how to break free of the LWB…

As a professional Tarot reader, I get asked a lot of questions… All the usual relationship and career type things but also I come across many people who’ve been reading for themselves for many years and they ask me how they can further their reading practice… They typically ask me questions like this…

I’ve always loved Tarot, but have never seemed to be able to get comfortable enough to trust my instincts rather than using the book. Any suggestions on how to get past this?

YES! I have lots of suggestions… Some may work for you, some may not… It very much depends on your personal learning style…

It doesn’t have to be…

Edvard Munch ~ The Scream

Think about the ways you like to learn and find ways that suit you best… Visual? Auditory? Kinaesthetic?

Off the top of my head, here are 10…

  1. Hide your book – I’m not going to advocate burning your LWB or tossing it out completely as there are times when it does come in useful… But think of your LWB as training wheels on a bicycle. It’s fine when you’re just setting out to learn and trying to find your balance… But if you come to be overly reliant then it’s going to seriously cramp your style…
  2. PRACTICE… yup! Practice… practice… practice… oh and did I say practice? 😀 and if you’re reading for someone else then ask for honest feedback.
  3. Record your own notes – keep a journal… though I would say not necessarily a pen and paper type. That’s fine if you’re that way inclined but for some, that can feel like a mammoth task. There are other ways to ‘journal’  – blogging, using dictaphones, scrapbooking… personally, I take photos and email them to myself along with any notes, thoughts, ideas. Find a way that works for you as if it feels to be a chore then you’re not going to keep it up.
  4. Drawing/Sketching – this I find a very useful exercise… pick a card and just spend 10 minutes sketching what you see. Don’t worry about how good you are… this is for your use… don’t over think or try to exactly replicate the image. Working quickly will give you the details that attract you. Look at what parts you’ve pulled out and consider why… was it the colour? shape? something with personal significance? What feelings are evoked as you do this?
  5. Don’t edit! Which ever way you choose to work, allow your thoughts and ideas to flow… Don’t dismiss anything as being wrong as even mistakes teach us valuable lessons. And this is where your LWB can come in handy… But use it AFTER you’ve made your own notes. Pick out anything that you feel is significant and that you missed using your own methods rather than starting with the LWB then dismissing anything that you disover that doesn’t seem to fit in. Working with cards is a personal experience and your meanings should reflect this and be meaningful to you and your experience of life.
  6. Study Symbology – look outside of your Tarot to other areas where symbology is used – colours, numerology, astrology, totem animals etc. Start to build your own personal library of references. You don’t have to worry about remembering things when you’ve spent time learning how to understand them…
  7. Card for the day – Focus on a card in the morning and then observe how it shows up throughout your day… This is helpful but more helpful is the next point…
  8. Groups of cards – take your cards in pairs and see how they work together… how do they talk to each other? I prefer to take mine in trios as I spent years playing various instruments and for me, to see cards in trios is like hearing notes and chords… there’s a tone and atmosphere and music being played…
  9. Associate cards with songs… I have a game I play called Free Association Football… You can check out some tunes HERE 😀
  10. Get out of your comfort zone! If you’re not uncomfortable then you’re not learning…

Here’s a post of mine where I combine several of these techniques… Why I like to draw cards…

Like I say… there are many methods to boost your confidence in your readings…

You may even consider booking a session with me to do just that… 😉

Ready to learn more?

Message  me via Pure & Blessed Tarot 😉

 

 

Pythonesque Parenting…

I’m sharing this video because it makes me laugh literally out loud…

It’s the last day of the school holidays and over the last how many weeks, my kids have been bickering…

Now every so often one of them will ask me to step in and referee… and mostly I tell them to find something to do, such as go to the park or to the library before I find them something to do such as clean their bedrooms or wash some pots…

Now Mr S… when he hears them arguing… he quotes at them and preaches lines from the following scripture…

I’m hard pressed to pick a favourite line but the section that is making me laugh loudest today is around the 2:50 – 3:40 mark that starts…

I’m sorry, I’m not allowed to argue any more.

Does anybody else discipline their kids through comedy?

Or just in life in general…

Have you got any favourite funny lines that you use to make a serious point?

😀

Ten of My Favourite Tarot Decks…

Now… I’m not saying these are my top ten and even though some may well indeed be in my all time top ten … these are not in any particular order…

These are all decks that I favour in one way or another for various reasons and are the 10 that caught my eye today… Ask me another day to choose 10 and you’ll no doubt see a few changes… Already… I’m shuffling these around in my head and thinking of decks that I’ve left out… and should I have put those in instead… 😀

Oh! My tarot hell!! 😀

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LOL and as is to be expected in the life of a tarot reader… Just as you’ve uploaded your list of 10…

Knock! Knock! Knock! on the door…

The arrival of another contender…

Here’s number 11 on my list of 10 decks that have caught my attention today…

The Gorgon's Tarot

The Gorgon’s Tarot by Dolores Fitchie

What’s on your top 10?

Be careful what you wish for…

I get into my car yesterday morning with Mr S and he looks up at the front of our house to the bedroom and says…

The next thing we’re buying is a new window…

Now maybe what he should have said was…

The next thing we’re buying is a new BEDROOM window…

As only a few short hours later, I hear a massive BLAM!!! from the garden…

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FANTASTIC!!! A bloody great hole in my bathroom window… And now a bloody great hole in my budget as I see a few things I’d been saving for go out of the window…

I find an enormous spud down on the ground… it’s Summer holidays so I put it down to bored kids but I’m annoyed, but also thankful that all mine were indoors and accountable for when it happened… So I don’t have the hot potato of grilling mine as to who threw that? As that would have further annoyed me, as they have a wonderful way of arguing and falling out amongst themselves pretty much most of the time… until they decide to stand together and then they can pull off an impressive wall of silence and plead ignorance even if they’ve been seen doing something… Their logic being that they have me outnumbered and if they stick together, then I’ll have to believe what they say… LOL little loves!

But I digress… I often do! So… speaking to the Cosmos…

I guess it has a sense of humour!

They often say that the devil is in the detail…

Late 90’s I went back to college full time for 2 years to retrain in Holistic Therapies and we were given several business assignments. The final one set was to put together your business plan… Now this covered every tiny detail imaginable from H&S and other legal requirements, marketing and strategy, branding… you name it, it was in there… I had an enormous box file, 4 inches deep filled with every detail imaginable right down to colour of paint for the skirting boards and details from estate agents for properties I was looking at…

The one and only time in life that I have ever been fully organised and focused on planning what I’ll be doing…

Until that point, I’d merrily gone through life bouncing from one good idea to another…

Now I was ORGANISED!!! I had a VISION!!!

What could go wrong?

HA!!!

The shortest is answer would be to say… what didn’t go wrong…

Life threw the biggest shit storm at me that I never even imagined possible… A relentless torrent of too many things to go into and to be honest…even if I wanted to… I just don’t have the time and energy as even to this day, that period of maybe 3-4 years had so many things happen that I cannot still fully sequence them into order… and I feel exhausted to even think about it and I’m only really just very recently beginning to feel as though I’m getting my breath back… But the whole episode I sum up with…

If you want to make God laugh… Tell him your 5 year plan…

Now lets whizz forwards from there to 2 years ago when I took another business course…

Write down your business targets, you can’t achieve goals unless you have them there to see…

I thought long and hard and I had a vague feel sense of what I wanted but within that, there was a lot of room for me to go off road and learn things I didn’t know yet… I knew that what I’d end up doing was something I’d not yet discovered… So I wrote down…

To be in flow…

Now the lecturer went round the room and asked each person to read out their goals…

Good! Brilliant! Wonderful!

Karen?

To be in flow…

That’s not a GOAL…

Yes it is…

NO! That’s FUZZY!!!  Goals have to be S.M.A.R.T.

(I forget what S.M.A.R.T. means now as I thought it pretty dumb as I pondered on the M and thought…. How do you make happiness measurable… I’d like 3 yards of happiness please…)

Oh.. O.K. then… my S.M.A.R.T. goal is…

TO TAKE TEN YEARS TO BECOME AN OVERNIGHT SUCCESS!!!

NEXT!!!

I clown around a lot… and that was dismissed as me clowning…

But… I know in myself exactly what that means… and I’m bang on track!

I don’t like to use words to lay out what I want… There’s a big part of me that thinks – a spell spoken is a spell broken…

I have a very clear image in my head of a scene in the future where I’ve achieved everything I set out to… I can see who I’m with and where I am and also how it feels…

I use this image to steer where I’m going… If I can see it in my mind’s eye then I know I’m on track…

Sometimes the image vanishes…

When it does then I have a game I play called news feed I-Ching…

I sit quietly and breathe and when the moment feels exactly right then I pick up my phone and flip to either facebook or twitter and I say to myself…

Bring me what I need to learn!

Then I respond to the first item that appears…

I’ve met some pretty awesome people that way… I’ve also met some massive arseholes!!! 😀 But they’ve all brought me what I needed to learn 😀

 

Religion vs Spirituality…

They say there are 3 things that you’re not supposed to discuss in polite company… religion, politics and sex…

So… I guess I probably don’t keep polite company but the company I do like to keep, likes to discuss pretty much anything and everything and the best company I keep is with those who don’t expect everybody to agree with everybody all the time…

Religion and Spirituality as topics are frequent flyers that land around me in all sorts of ways…

And it’s not people’s views and opinions that bother me as such…

But… I am less than enamoured by people’s assumptions and their views on what they seem to imagine that my beliefs are…

Particularly when they are so convinced that I support their view of the world by agreeing/disagreeing with what they agree/disagree with, based solely on the fact that  I happen to have a deck of tarot cards in my hand…

Whether it be – Oh! I’m not allowed to talk to people like you as I’m a Christian!

Yes! I have had that said to me… I just smiled as she continued with justifying her statement as in my head there were too many… way too many ways that I could have answered that…

  • Me too actually… I have Salvation Army blood in my veins! (ok… so I don’t follow that way but it’s left some traces nonetheless and sometimes I like to say things just for sheer devilment… 😀 )
  • People like me? What? Fat? White? Female? Science Graduate? Mother? Married? Facetious? Sarcastic? 😀
  • Jeez!!! Not ALLOWED?! What are you FIVE??
  • Meh… Christianity… it’s just synchretic eclectic paganism…

Instead I said… Lovely… and how’s that working out for you…

Or on the other end of the scale…

Hail and well met Sister Witch!

Seriously??? I’ve never met you before and you think just because I have a deck in hand that I follow your beliefs? No… and even if I did… well that greeting has just made me less than inclined to embrace you into my inner circle…

I observe neither the Sabbath nor the Sabbats…

I object to the either/or stance on this…

Religion in one corner and Spirituality in t’other with ne’er the twain shall meet…

There are many valuable insights to be found within Religious texts and why should we throw the baby out with the bath water?

It’s not Religion that makes people bad… Bad people are bad people and yes… there are people who do bad things under the banner of Religion… but that’s the same with Spirituality… and all of those people who pass off their actions as being some sort of way of expressing their faith/beliefs/spirtuality/whatev’ …. well…. they can all Love and Light me all the way to hell…

If you want to polarise this topic into two distinct areas then what I read then is not…

Religion vs Spirituality

but rather

Group Think vs Group Think

I know people who say they are Religious…

I know people who say they are not Religious…

I know people who say they are Spiritual…

I know people who say they are not Spiritual…

I know people who say they are both…

I know people who say they are neither…

I see a mixture of good and bad everywhere…

I really do not care HOW you define yourself…

Though… I am interested in hearing…

WHY…

And so endeth my sermon for today…

😉

dl

 

Woody’s Words of Wisdom…

Some of you may already know me… some of you may not… whatev’…

Mrs S got this email this morning…

Today let’s talk about our little ones who love and support us. You know, our pets!
Today’s Topics:
1) How your energy affects your pets (and vice versa)
OR
2) How do you communicate with your pets or help others to communicate with theirs?

Well… it’s Friday and Mrs S likes to do fun stuff on Fridays…

So I told her… Hey! Go play! The Woodster’s got this one covered…

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Tears of a Clown…

Mental health has been THE hot topic over the last few days… suddenly anyone and everybody has something to say about it…

And to be perfectly bloody honest… I’m sick and tired of hearing about it…

5 of Pentacles (c) Jordan Hoggard

5 of Pentacles
(c) Jordan Hoggard

But before you get on your high horse and tut tut your disapproval let me continue…

I have spent my whole life surrounded in some way, shape or form, by people with mental health problems…

Chronic disorders, endogenous depression, acute anxiety, general anxiety disorders, bi-polar disorder, psychosis… and the list goes on…

So why am I pissed off?

Because… I’ve seen many people with mental health illness carry on about their lives with very little and often zero support from those around them, other than the odd ‘helpful’ soul who tells them to ‘snap out of it!’

And now I see news feeds flooded with empathy and wise words and much gnashing and wailing about how they’ve been so personally touched  by the events of a stranger in the media spotlight…

And I find it very hard not to shout FUCK YOU!!!

Where are you when this affects the lives of people you know…. your friends, your neighbours, your family…

The people who don’t disappear when you log off…

On hand one… I do hope that media attention helps to remove some of the stigma that surrounds mental health…

But on the other hand… I know today’s newspapers are tomorrow’s fish ‘n’ chip wrappers and the topic du jour will soon be replaced and when it comes to real life…. My experience is that most people are uncomfortable around these issues and prefer to ignore them…

Then on the other hand… (yes… I have at least 3…)…

I find another worrying trend that disturbs me… an eagerness to over prescribe and medicate away parts of life that are normal…

A few years ago, I went out with a group of women and there were 14 of us and I don’t recall exactly how the conversation started but we all sat and dined around a big table and the wine was flowing and one of these women let slip to me that she was on anti-depressants… and she clasped her hand over her mouth as she had shocked herself with her reveal…

Now… I knew at least 2 other people at that table were also taking these tablets… I said to her… Don’t worry… you’re not alone…

Then what I did next surprised her but was an even bigger surprise to me…

I banged on the table like a toastmaster…

Hands up!!! Who here is currently taking or has ever taken antidepressants?

Two hands went up… a few glances were exchanged then 10  … yes TEN more hands went up

Out of fourteen people there were twelve that raised their hand…

Only myself and one other person had not taken them… I asked that one  – why not? and she said that she had been offered them several times but was terrified to take them…

I have also been offered them and the reason I have not taken them can be found here… My response is not ‘normal’

Mental health disturbs me on so many levels…

And I have spent many hours pondering on my own mental health as basically most traits of being creative hit tick boxes for getting you sectioned as a nutter…

I find people very uptight around the subject… when I’m with my friends, I can let loose my dark humour (or on stage… I have done a set on what it’s like to live with someone with OCD…) but online… well… I had a rather interesting encounter after putting up a jokey status along the lines of what is it with people with OCD…. they have a bloody place for everything except for where they leave my sodding car keys…

That led to an un-friending after being told how ignorant I was and it’s NOT funny! My son has it and you don’t know what you are talking about…

I’d been blocked before I even got to reply… But then fuck it! Why should I justify myself anyway…

The person who’d I written about found it funny… and if I didn’t find some way to find some humour in mental illness then I’d have probably have murdered someone in their sleep many moons ago…

So… I see people who want to pop a pill for everything…. oh… I feel a bit sad… Here! Take this! My Granny has died… Here! Take this! I’m a bit stressed…. Here!…. need I go on?

I see normal every day things being medicated away…

I see people with severe mental illness trying to live without medication as not only does it take away illness… but often it robs them of other things… Where’s your natural personality in all of this…

And often I see that it’s not that person who is ill but the environment around them that causes the problems…

I’ve seen people who’ve been using medication for years suddenly become miraculously better after changing who they hang around with…

A couple of years ago, I had a problem with one of my sons at school… It went on for almost 2 years…

He was highly stressed at school and would walk out of the building…

The school wanted me to take him to the Doctor’s and get him diagnosed as having a behavioural problem…

I refused to take him and argued that there was not a problem with him but with the lack of classroom management skills…

Now this class was so noisy that you could hear the teacher shouting two streets away…

But I got told – Nonsense! Your son is unteachable…

Yes… my unteachable son who now he’s moved school has a shelf full of awards for being gifted and talented… mmm…

And that brings me back again to Mental Illness???

How are you defining that? Because… I’m seeing it as society is ill and doesn’t want to deal with anyone that they can’t slap a label on…

Oh… and watch out! Because if they do slap on a label… it never comes off…. Not even if it’s a misdiagnosis…

Catch 22…

You know… I went online the other day and found a test… It was to see if you have a split personality…

I took it twice… I failed one and passed one…

In the mean time… I think it’s time to claim back eccentricity…

It’s a good old fashioned English way…

I can be as bat shit gloriously crazy as I like… and if I’m functioning happily and undisturbed by my quirkiness… then why the hell should anybody else mind…

Welcome to The Ex Files…

Hidden Strength... Images (c) Jordan Hoggard 2010

Hidden Strength…
Images (c) Jordan Hoggard 2010

When it comes to Family of Origin vs Family of Choice… I think I’ve made my preference more than clear in Confessions of an Elective Orphan… 

Though as a brief summary…. well I’ve said this before and I’m sure I’ll say it again…

Blood may be thicker than water…

But which would you rather swim in…

Yes… I’m firmly in the Family of Choice camp…

One thing I’ve realised over the last few years, is that when you’ve grown up in an abusive environment, the abuse lasts well beyond leaving that environment… Abuse is an insidious disease and leaves you exposed…

Where other people have learnt about healthy boundaries, you have a very skewed view of what constitutes normal…

But eventually you get to the point where you’ve decided that it’s Time for some Foxy Fencing…

I used to be slow to burn bridges with people as I know that once I decide something… I do not turn back…

You will cease to exist in my universe…

You will be firmly placed into the EX FILES…

Never to be seen or heard again…

Harsh?

No… I don’t think so… though these days I keep a mental check list of red flags and fewer people are placed into the Ex files as they don’t make it past the bouncer and into my V.I.P. area in the first place…

Forgiveness and Reconciliation?

Forgiveness is superfluous…

Reconciliation…

Well I’ll make peace with me… and you make peace with you…

Forgive and Forget…

Forgive… see above…

Forget… NEVER!!!

Learn… adapt… and move on…

How do I find my peace… well I write and that indeed does  allow me to reconcile and bring peace to myself on many things… including being able to Throw Momma From My Brain…

Yes… pretty much everything winds up in my writing in some shape or form eventually…

What’s that quote that goes around…

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You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.

 

Warning! Imbibing Mystereum May Cause Serious Creative Side Effects…

So… I open my email today from the Spiritual Badass Blog Challenge and I read…

Today’s topics:

1) Your favorite Tarot deck and why

OR

2) A card you REALLY like or REALLY dislike, and why

So option 2 is not quite working for me as I’ve never REALLY disliked any card… and as for which card I REALLY like… well that’s kind of like asking me which is my favourite child… The answer being – whichever one I happen to be sat with(or is within earshot) when you ask 😀

And as for option 1… well if you’ve spent anytime wandering around my blog then it’s fairly obvious as most of it is Mystereum Musings… with this being my 87th M induced post…

Now there are lots of reasons why I love this deck and in fact I must sit down properly at some point and maybe give that some serious consideration… but off the top of my head, since I’ve had this deck, alongside the usual reading type stuff …I’ve used it for…

  • Business planning
  • Designing workshops
  • Writing
  • Blogging (obviously! lol)
  • Art work
  • etc
  • etc
  • etc 😀

But the main reason I love it, is that it unlocked lots of parts of me that had been switched off, hidden and buried over the years… and one of the first things that happened to me was that I got the urge to start drawing again… I’d not drawn since I’d been at school and suddenly I found myself everyday sitting with a box of pastels that had sat in their wooden time capsule since 1985… they were out and free and blazing trails of colour…

Which led to one of my favourite decks…

This kind of started as a joke… I was in a meeting about organising a charity event which was called Bring A Bra…

The idea being that women donated a Bra as entrance fee and then these could be sent overseas to women who ran small businesses selling them…

Now somebody said – OH! You can’t ask people to bring in their bras! Maybe they don’t want anyone to see them!

I found that hilariously funny and said – Hey! Show me your bra! Let me read all your secrets! 😀

Someone else chipped in – Seriously? You can read Bras?

Sure! Why not! Ha! The BraCana! 😀

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I went away and thought about it and then found out advertising had gone out saying that I would be there doing Bra Readings!

So… I thought… Mmmmm…. actual bra readings are not going to be that good maybe, as people may just grab something off a sale rail rather than what they’d usually opt for…

How do I do this?

Then images flooded my head and basically I didn’t move from my desk for the next 3 days… (don’t even think about that… ) And the images went from in my head to being live and read in under a week… Though by then, they’d shifted from BraCana as although they were loosely based around the Major Arcana… they way they landed as 24 images in 3 groups of 8 made them feel more Rune-ish and oracle in nature and so they became the BraRacle…

And surprisingly… they read rather well! Also they are quite a nice novelty deck for the crowds I move in as I spend a lot of time with Belly Dancers and Burlesque Artists…

More recently, I’ve started working on my own Tarot deck…

Because I’ve had so many wild and varied adventures hanging out with M, I wondered what my own deck would reveal…

And also… I have always really wanted a handmade one off…

Mrs Sealey's Tarot Deck... Work in progress...

Mrs Sealey’s Tarot Deck… Work in progress…

Yes… Tarot in the Land of Mystereum is my favourite deck…

Because it taught me the value of doing something purely for your own pleasure…

How can you exist in that mess…

How can you exist in that mess…

That’s a common refrain that I hear in my house…

Poor old Mr S the neat freak that he is… is often driven to distraction by what he calls my mess but I call my circle of chaos…

And I’m pretty used to hearing him chuntering away in the back ground about how I should tidy things up and how can I possibly find anything…

And I silently chunter away in my head… why don’t you just shut the chuff up and ha! you don’t need to find anything… this is my stuff and I know EXACTLY where everything is…

Mostly I ignore him but now and then I will ask him about the wild tangle of wires at the side of his bed connected to all manner of effects pedals and recording gizmos and all sorts of other paraphernalia that musicians amass and ask him why that is not classed as a mess…

But yesterday… He said something quite interesting…

He said that watching my desk was like watching a living entity that had moved into our house and ebbed and flowed or sometimes glided across the room like a melting glacier…

So… I decided to take a photo… And I’m going to take one at the same time of day, each day for the next 30 days and see what sort of beast I have here…

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Mmmm…. Looking at this I kind of see his point… but I’m going to have to say he is wrong…

I can work in this… 😀

See you in 30 days time…