Consensual Healing…

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Welcome to the latest Reiki blog hop. The theme for this hop was set by myself and I invited others to write about consent. I deliberately left this vague and as a one-word remit as I was intrigued as to what others would have to say…

CONSENT

Over the years, I have spent much time pondering this as often mostly it’s not a problem but when it is a problem then it feels to be a contentious issue and one that if you speak freely about then well… you never know where it can go… What I do know is that I’ve encountered some rather unpleasant experiences in the past when discussing this…

The reason that this topic floated up to the surface of my mind again, was that a few months back I attended a day’s workshop, this was not Reiki or even healing but in the general holistic arena and as such I fully expected to be spending my day with a bunch of strangers most of which would be in to some kind of healing and yeah… I most definitely expected to encounter a Reiki Master as…well… it’s pretty much ubiquitous these days and seems that where ever you are, you are never more than 3 metres away from one of the attuned…

So the day starts and all is going in a rather quiet and laid back fashion or maybe it was that I was still half asleep as kickoff time was an hour before this night owl is usually functioning at an even semi-human level… But 20 minutes in and the door bursts open with much puffing and panting and wild armed gesticulating about the awful traffic and oh! so hard to find this place! blah blah blah and very little regard for disrupting  the peace and quiet and no attempt at any form of apology for the tardiness…

But… it’s before 11am… so I’m still layered in the teflon of sleepiness but I do hear somebody to my right mutter… yeah… we came in from there also and we managed to get here ok and on time… I wish them all into silence and pray that I make it through the next 6 hours without my inner animal coming out to feed on live bait (my higher self doesn’t rise until at least noon…) I could smell the way that this was going to unfold and unfortunately… I was not proven wrong…

It got to that  part of the day that always feels like you’re sat in Alcoholic’s Anonymous (not that I’ve ever been there other than in my imagination…) you’re in a circle of strangers and one person is stood up telling you all to introduce yourself to each other… The Arm Waver was up again…

I’M A REIKI MASTER!!!

I zone out in the same way that I zone out when I get a phone call from anybody who teaches my kids and rings and starts the conversation with their job title… it makes me silent shriek… yes!!!! but what is your NAME?!!! actually, that’s a complete lie as when it happens via my phone, I go on to an auto- loop of – yes dear! what’s your name?! until they break their pre-prepared script to actually converse with me rather than expecting socially compliant obsequiousness to their (in their opinion) vastly superior status to mine… to be quite frank, I find it somewhat rather rude (which is typical British understatement for it makes me madder than hell and I’d sooner push lit matches under my toenails than continue this conversation…) but a much greater sin in my eyes that outweighs all of this is that over the years, I’ve kind of come to the conclusion that interesting people seldom start a conversation by impressing upon you what they do… yeah yeah yeah…. I know there’s all this networking malarkey and top tips about elevator pitches… but I’m sorry… it bores me… and if you want to make sure I never speak to you again then please do go ahead and introduce yourself by telling me what you do and how amazing you are whilst completing failing to give me your name…

So… all morning… we get to listen to Reiki this and Reiki that interspersed with little condemning remarks about how Religious people are not spiritual like wot we are! Oh… and then the ‘psychic’ flashes as this person just can’t help picking up other people’s vibes and then goes on to foist unasked for insights and intuitions on the poor victim who looks very much like a lamb to the slaughter and very uncomfortable and reluctant to speak up in a room full of stranger(s)…

I breathe… I breathe again… I imagine myself sinking into Mother Earth and just letting it all flow through…

By now, I feel like an observer watching through a two-way mirror…

Then it just tips a little too far… I’m not sure what prompted it but now this person is up on their feet and full of pomp and pageantry and flouncing and flailing their arms around and announcing that they are going to give Reiki to everyone in the room… The old dormant reptile part of my brain awakens… the part that was always watching via peripheral vision for hassles when I spent years in Casino pits… Out of the corner of my eye, I caught the Mexican Wave of eyeball rolls that spread across the room… but still no one speaks… and I feel that we have a very large and  very obvious elephant in the room… and yeah… I know maybe I should be more serene and rise above such things but… my inner croupier has come alive and just as when I used to spot a dolly being placed incorrectly on a wrong number on a roulette table… I shoot both hands up into the air and in a voice that is flat and calm and has many many times brought a whole room ten times the size of this into a complete silence… I boom…

STOP!

So… the whole room now faces me and Arm Waver has gone into temporary stasis with a look of shock spreading across their baffled face… and now comes to glare at me, barely masking the annoyance that I’ve interrupted their performance art  Reiki donation…

I stare back… and quietly say… No thank you, please keep your Reiki, our energy is fine over here…

But you see… It’s not the Reiki I object to… it’s this person’s attitude…

Basically, on some level, I feel as though I have been violated… I feel as though I have encountered a Reiki Rapist…

I have strong objections about unsolicited energy exchanges… for me, there needs to be a level of trust and open communication in the process… I want consensual healing (Did you hear my Barry White impersonation? 😉 ) … It’s not acceptable to go around willy nilly blasting people with what at the end of the day are you own personal beliefs no matter if that energy does come from source and we are all fundamentally interconnected… Not everybody wants to feel that or is ready to cope with what arises from entering into energy work… It’s hard work! You’re often opening cans of worms that you never knew existed… I know a guy who suffered for years and years with OCD… he tried all manner of methods and medications and then one day his wife brought a Buddha statue into the living room… She didn’t know why she’d done it, it had just appealed to her… a big fat heavy wooden Buddha with a relentless cheery grin… The husband said… Why have you got that? She replied… I don’t know… but I think I heard it somewhere that when you bring a Buddha into your house, you invite him into your life… A few weeks later and the husband is drifting through a bookstore and returns home with a book… the Buddha has indeed come for him… slowly he begins to pick apart his thinking habits and he puts them back together again in a way that causes him a less stressful way to approach life… and several years on, he is indeed much calmer… though the wife, she does occasionally wave a jocular fist in the direction of the Buddha and say… Oh! You so funny!!! Yes! My husband is so serene…but in the old days, he used to only check 27 times that the door was locked and now he does  108…

It’s just not cool to take it upon yourself to decide for somebody else what they need…

I know I’d be pretty pissed if I sat down in a restaurant and ordered something delicious, only to have a plate of something I’d not asked for put in front of me because someone took a look at me and decided that I needed a healthier option…

Ah… consent… my mind ping pongs along in a game of free association football and I go from strutting peacocks and waving arms and primal primitive reptilian instincts and soon I arrive at bees…

Oh! Mr humble bumble bee… Do you ask the flowers for permission before you dip…

I’m not sure that he does… I’m sure he just bumbles along just doing bee stuff because that’s what bees do…

But then again… I’m not sure that he needs to as surely flowers are just doing flower stuff and if they didn’t benefit from this interaction then I’m sure the Darwinism mechanisms would have put paid to this long term relationship long before now…

And as Picasso said…

I let life reveal itself to me as a flower does to its pollinator

Who knows what the agendas and thoughts and motives are of the flowers and the bees…

Though a couple of things I observe about my dear humble bumble friend; firstly is that he may have landed on me very many times, but he’s never tried to climb into my ear… and when I’m silent and wait for him to move along and get back on his way, he does so without causing me any harm…

The other thing I observe and I think should be noted by inappropriate Arm Wavers everywhere… is that if you flap and shout and get right up in his face… He will sting you… He’s very good at asserting NO means NO! 😉

You can follow the links to read my neighbours posts… it’s ok… you have pre-approved consent to go visit them 🙂

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2016 May Reiki Blog Hop Master List

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Today is our second Reiki Blog Hop!

The theme is:

Consent

This is something that I’ve seen wildly varying views on, so was interested in hearing the views and opinions that other Reiki healers have to offer.

Here is the list of participants:

  1. Karen Sealey https://pureblessedtarot.wordpress.com/2016/05/15/consensual-healing/
  2. Joy Vernon http://joyvernon.com/Blog/permission-omission-or-commission/
  3. Sierra Koch http://reikiplayground.com/reiki-consent/
  4. Jay Cassels http://metaphysicalangels.co.uk/rbh2
  5.  Aaron Lozano http://www.turtlehearttarot.com/blog/may-reiki-blog-hop-2016-consent

 

Thank you and welcome to everyone who is joining us here!

The Reiki Blog Hop will happen once every two months–our next hop will be July 15, 2016.

For more info, or if you’d like to be a part of it, please check us out on Facebook.

Tarot Nuts in May…

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Ok…Ok… first off a little bit of an apology to my fellow hoppers… particularly to those who read the prompt I set and thought… OMG!!! WTF???

IMG_5550I ‘m sorry!! OK!!! I’m sorry!!

Especially to any newbies who may have felt that they’d just landed into an initiation by fire…

I’m sorry… I’m truly truly sorry…

But believe you me… I really did not think this through… and I opened up a classic case of the blind leading the blind…

See… that’s what happens when you let an idiot loose as the wrangler…

But… you know… I can’t promise that it won’t happen again… it very well may…

I have this terrible affliction where I’m visited by Loki… he lands like a crow on my head and he pecks away with K… T… K…T… K…T… I’ve got a fun game we can play… follow me… follow me…

I say… Loki! I’m too old for this… I’m all grown up now… I’m not KT anymore… I’m Mrs S!

He says… well yes… that may be… you may like to tell yourself that… but I know you from way back when and I know you’ll come and play… K…T…K…T… run away with me…

(I’m just going to give you a slight back story here… the first time I met Loki, I was 7 maybe 8… and I can’t recall the exact circumstances of how and why but I along with my little sister had just had a telling off from the woman across the road and we’d bolted home to hide in our back garden and as my ears were still ringing from her shouts, I heard another voice say… hey… pssst… over here…. I’ll show you how to pay her back…

So… I followed the voice and I grabbed my sister’s hand and dragged her along with me and soon we were mixing all manner of strange things into a potion… vinegar and mustard and marshmallows are the things I recall… the other ingredients are now a mystery to me… Soon we had one those plastic bags that you sealed with a twisty tie, the sort of thing that chest freezers were full of in the 70’s as big cavernous icy tombs were filled with all manner of crap  meals for the week that were more a display to the Jones’s that you had the wealth to buy the new fangled machine rather than  a nod to health and  nutrition… anyway… the bag was brimming and fit to burst… what were we to do with it? Loki said… she loves her roses… go pour it on one of the bushes… so we crawled on our bellies to sneak up on the flora without being spotted and we held our breath as we with trembling hands poured the vile concoction over a rose bush with a few red buds… Loki said… Good… now wait and watch and see what happens…

The weeks passed and the bushes began to grow… there were maybe half a dozen and they grew with sparse blooms but the one that we’d medicated with mischief… it grew and grew and grew… it bloomed the biggest fattest fullest most fragrant roses I ever did see or smell…

I watched with disbelief until I called Loki to come back… Loki????? What??? Why???

He said to me… K…T…. K…T…. Katey clever clogs!!! When you play with a trickster… things may or may not turn out how you imagine…

To be honest… that’s probably a lesson I should have paid more attention to… 😀 )

So anyway…. back to the hop in hand…

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Trust me… I really did shoot myself in the foot… I sat up in the crazy owl hours, burning the midnight oil and trying to work out how to fill the blank pages… mmmm….. this may work…. or maybe not… ideas wriggled and flipped like fish on a hook and all of them flailed and failed to land… then I had the idea that is responsible for the title that you see above … though that idea  got trashed (however the tin foil hat of the title still conveniently fits my new head of thoughts…). I watched the original idea unfurl out like emerging fronds of ferns and I realised that it would probably make for a very nice stage play or film adaptation  but in the hopping arena… something like that would be so lengthy that it would be verging on holding you hostage and would be tantamount to reader abuse…

Then…the postman arrives and a-ha!

Synchronicity… my timely friend

All my random thoughts suddenly roll together…

IMG_5553The Tarot Derive

lands and the box opens and sprawls its way across my room…

K…T…K…T… run away with me…

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meet Tommy Ten Sheds… silent sleeping partner…

BINGO!!!  THE BLOG HAS LANDED!!!

Shhh… don’t wake the cat…

IMG_5554So… I finally remember the lightning bolt of inspiration and what was going through my mind when I initially wrote the theme… I’d been thinking that so often when writing email readings, I’d been using the word may… and each and every time it annoys me… because it feels so tentative and flimsy and almost like a wavering waiver of disclaiming whatever comes off of your keypad next…

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In the good old days… writing was a slow fashion… it gracefully glided from a glistening nib adorned in bluey black gorgeousness… there lived style, discipline, authority  and craftsmanship and precision and skill of the hand to make elegant marks across the page, which gave time for the mind to play out the big picture and set all the pawns in a row… intelligent strategy of a long game described to people who were prepared to wait and then feel the weight of the considerations as they then picked up the pieces to take their turn and make their next move…

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Now on the great web…

Everything is whizzbang in all directions and people want answers yesterday…

Now I have no problem with firing quick thoughts and I am by all accounts a pretty nifty word slinger…

BUT…

What bothers me is…

It’s always a gamble!

Will the reader take the time to read what I actually wrote rather than what they think they read as they skim through the answers, whilst flicking between texts, LimpedIn, Twatter Wotszapp and f*ck  facebook…

I’m a pithy pragmatic soul and I may not always tell you what you want to hear and face to face… most people I see are down with that and in fact, that is why my frequent flyers return… because my ass is firmly rooted and grounded even if my words are off the wall… and they know I speak common sense even if it is in elaborately flowery and off-beat metaphor…

But with writing… there’s always that ??? as to how your words will land and what impact they will leave… I don’t really want to leave my boot print on somebody else’s crushed dreams…

So I find myself writing… well… it may be this or it may be that…

And I feel a heightened awareness of this pathetic trend of being fashionably butt hurt…

I have experienced first-hand people who I thought knew me, taking my words entirely out of context and twisting them to bang on about some point that they want to rant on about… and then slapping me with tags and hashtags… which I usually quieten with – let’s continue this face to face over a drink…

But then I think of The Oracle of Delphi and the inscription above the door…

Know thyself

And I remember that while I am responsible for what I am writing…

The seeker should also be responsible in what they are asking and also in how they may interpret  the advice that they sought out…
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Caveat emptor

Weigh up your question before you ask

Think about the direction you wish to travel

You are entering my domain

And if you come unprepared and  prodding wings expecting fairy dust to fall

Then you should not be surprised when you find yourself being blazed by a dragon

This is my world

I can move swiftly in any direction

I may stampede full steam ahead in the direction you seek

I may toss you a curve ball and send you reeling

So… think carefully

I hang in the balance between reality and imagination

I move up and down between the two

If you decide to drop into my portal

You may find that it’s not Wonderland

But a pothole into a wandering no man’s land

And if you don’t ask the right questions

You may be faced with just the

Final grin of the fading Cheshire Cat

And an echo of a voice that laughs

Then it doesn’t much matter which way you go…

🙂

Fortunately for you today…

You have landed when I am in good company. You can hit the links in either direction and you’ll be sure to find wonders!

May you always be blessed

🙂

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2016 Beltane Tarot Blog Hop MASTER LIST

Tarot Blog Hop

Welcome to the Beltane Tarot Blog Hop

I’m this hop’s chief cat herder wrangler and I set my fellow hoppers the following topic…

You may or may not have noticed that I have a penchant for puns and a fondness for free association…
So… as I thought about a theme for May day, it occurred to me how often the word ‘may’ gets used in readings…
So… what I’d like you to do, is take the word ‘may’ and play with it as you choose…
What does the word mean to you?
Is it a word that you use often and if so in what context?
Do you have a favourite quote/poem/song that uses the word?
Or you may just want to get out your crayons/camera and make a card…
Whatever you wish…
Take the word, kick it around, let it off the leash and have a field day with it…
Let it take you where it chooses…
You may just be surprised
🙂
Here’s the list of my talented colleagues and the links for each of their posts.
Click on any link and then you can follow the chain full circle to find out what they’ve all been up to…
  1. Chloë McCracken http://www.innerwhispers.co.uk/april-showers-bring-may-flowers/
  2. JoannaKate Grant https://thothjourney.wordpress.com/2016/05/01/beltane-fires/
  3. Ania M http://aniam.co.uk/blog/may
  4. Morgan Drake Eckstein http://gleamingsfromthedawn.blogspot.com/2016/05/may-day-may-day.html
  5. Jay Cassels http://metaphysicalangels.co.uk/tbh1
  6. Karen Sealey https://pureblessedtarot.wordpress.com/2016/05/01/tarot-nuts-in-may/ 
  7. Alison Coals http://alisonsalembic.blogspot.com/2016/05/beltane-tarot-blog-hop-2016.html
  8. Aaron Lozano http://www.turtlehearttarot.com/blog/2016-beltane-tarot-blog-hop-mother-may-i
  9. Meniscus (by Ania M) http://meniscustarot.co.uk/maybe
  10. Joy Vernon  http://joyvernon.com/Blog/maypole-tarot-spread/
  11. Nicole Dauch http://wp.me/p4OuGb-xr
  12. Chloë for Celtic Lenormand http://www.celticlenormand.com/2016/05/what-gifts-may-flowers-bring.html
  13. Louise Underhill http://www.priestesstarot.co.uk/2016/05/tarot-blog-hop-may-i/
  14. Joanne Sprott http://cosmicwhisperstarot.com/2016/05/01/power-may-tarot-blog-hop/
  15.  Katalin Patnaik https://katalinpatnaik.wordpress.com/2016/05/01/2016-beltane-tarot-blog-hop
  16. Christiana Gaudet http://www.christianagaudet.com/personal-blog/what-may-be